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Attend wedding 1.We have been dating for 5 years.We have kind of always had a rocky relationship. 2.My fiance family isn the type to call often.And they call usually only for 5 minutes on birthdays and christmas.They aren"Gift people"And they are pretty detached. 4.We mentioned we were getting married and wanted to do it this summer.We mentioned this last year and also in march.Since we been dating for a long time we just want to be married and start our life together. 5.We just officially got engaged a week ago. 6.We live in utah.They Coloured Wedding Dresses UK live in maryland. 7.We want to get married in mid july. 8.I am white and he is black. Ok.So before we got engaged we mentioned to them that we wanted to get married in the summer.They said something like"Oh wow that fast!Are you sure? "And were on board somewhat.His brother, however, said they couldn fly with a newborn so they couldn come but if we postponed it to next year they would.His brother and his girlfriend had a baby at the end of april who had a birth defect and had surgery.He is in recovery and is doing well.Now they are all saying they can come because the baby is sick and they won be able to fly and there is no money. We haven asked them to pay for anything for the wedding.Just to come and support.After they said they couldn afford it and that the baby was sick, my fiance was very upset.My dad saw this and said he would pay for all of their airfares to come out.He said he would even pay for my fiance brother to come only for the wedding and then fly out right away so he could be back with his girlfriend and baby.They haven responded to this, but they did call my fiance and say"If you just postponed it until next year then we could come.It just common sense.But if you want to exclude us that is your choice. "We have stressed it to them and they just said"What done is done"Or something like that. I really torn because we want to start our family and our life together and have Homecoming Dresses UK been planning this for a long time.But my fiance does everything to help his family out with little to no reciprocation.He hardly gets birthday gifts or christmas presents.They don send cards or congratulate when big things happen.They hardly speak to us and when we ask about their lives they either don respond or they said"Mind your own business"In so many words. They have always been a little critical of us and they think i nuts.They tease him for decisions he makes like wearing bowties cardigans and not listening to rap or reggae or whatever.It might be out of love but whatever. I also understand that they are worried about the baby.It must be really scary to have your infant go under the knife.But the baby will be nearly 3 months by the time our wedding happens and i would rather have seen them say that they will see or make reservations and then cancel at the last minute because they felt the baby wasn well enough.Airlines usually reimburse or reschedule for medical stuff, right?I am afraid that i being a brat, but since even before the baby was born they said they"Couldn fly with an infant", i worried it might be an excuse they can hide behind.Please don think i heartless!I want them to feel comfortable coming here to support my fiance and us and i don want them to have all these stresses and use that as an excuse.Does that make sense?I hope it doesn sound wrong. I want my fiance to have his family support but i torn because i don want to rearrange our entire wedding and the start of the rest of our lives when we have been so accommodating and stressed how much we want them there.I love my fiance so much and he is torn up inside because he wants to do the right thing but realizes that his family never said they would try to come.They said from the getgo that they would come if we got married in winter or next year but not this summer. What should we do?I so conflicted and i heard so many different opinions and i feel selfish wanting to just get married already and start being his wife.I waited years for his proposal and july is so meaningful to us that we have agreed that it would be the perfect time to get married and have subsequent anniversaries.Its been a goal for a long time. Please give any advice you have!Thanks so much in advance! : ) 4 months agoHave the wedding where you want, when you want.Sounds like your husbandtobe brother and his girlfriend are hiding behind their baby as an excuse, especially since they rejected your dad offer to fund their trip.Invite everyone you and your fiance want, but expect some people to decline because of the distance, hotel costs, or inability to get time off from work.Hire a good videographer get the entire wedding filmed.Mail a copy to close friends family who couldn make it, so they still feel like they were"There. " "Airlines usually reimburse or reschedule for medical stuff, right? "No.And if they have to pay for medical bills for a seriously ill infant, they don even have the money to pretend to put down on a trip they plan to cancel later. Either you very young or you been very blessed to never have anyone in your family be seriously ill, let alone have a child who is seriously ill.But your ridiculous clueless statement that they could just resevere a spot cancel or one of them could come out fly back out comes off as self absorbed entitled shows that they may not be wrong that you crazy. That being said, there is no reason you and your fiance need to put your lives on hold.If you ready to get married then go ahead plan your wedding send out the invitations.If they come they come, if they don then they don now you just doing a lot of talking when things are not really planned, then people think that they can dictate what you can can do.If you have something solid done for them to consider, they may surprise you and behave differently. The random"Oh, we thinking of getting married this summer"Statement spoken out loud gets a very different response to the formal written invitation that says"We request the honor of your prescence at x on july 12, 2013 at ypm" Sorry but i agree with your fiance brother.His wife and his child come first.If there any risk at all, the baby shouldn fly.This is not an ordinary newborn, but a newborn with health issues.Even the brother himself, it is understandable that he stays by his wife side. Airlines do not reimburse you for a medical emergency.That is what travel insurance is for.But travel insurance may be impossible to get since there is a preexisting medical condition. However the rest of the family should be able to attend especially since your father has offered to pay their airfares.Your fiance parents do not need to be there 24/7. I suggest you forget about the brother(And his wife and baby)Coming, and your fiance just works on convincing his parents to come. Have your wedding in july as you planned.Five years is long enough to know you want to marry.If you wait a year to please them there will be something next year preventing them from coming to your wedding.Your fiance will have to distance himself from his family as they do not approve of him marrying you, it may be because of your race and it may be because he has grown away from them in his lifestyle choices Your father has made a very generous offer but they may feel he put them down by offering to pay.If they really cared about your fiance they would come to his wedding by bus to be there.